The Modern Bridesmaid
By Sher Matsen
Its a whole new day, and there is a whole new look
for bridesmaids. Its a welcome change from the past years. At its not just the
bridesmaids look that has gotten a facelift, the brides are sporting a whole new look too.
Traditional wedding gowns and traditional white will
always be a choice. Thats a tradition thats just not going to disappear. And
thats okay. But the choices now available for the modern bride are welcome change,
allowing those creative juices to flow, and ones own personality to stand out.
The history of the bridesmaids attire is quite
interesting. In past centuries brides wore elaborate colorful gowns, and bridesmaids wore
similar gowns. This was to disguise the bride and protect her from being kidnapped by evil
spirits. By the Victorian era things had changed producing brides that wanted to stand out
in the crowd. Thus the formal elaborate white wedding gown entered the wedding fashion
scene. However the bridesmaids attire didnt change, remaining bold and frilly.
Well this century bridesmaids have a lot more to say about
what they wear. Not only have the traditional dresses taken on a more sophisticated and
elegant look. Many brides now let their bridesmaids choose their own dress based on the
chosen color scheme. All bridesmaids werent created equal. By allowing them to
choose a dress that flatters them, you have happier bridesmaids and better photo ops.
Gowns and dresses worn by the modern bridesmaid are often
functional enough for other formal events and gatherings. A much smarter alternative to
the expensive gown thats worn once then buried deep in the closet never to be seen
again. We all remember wearing one of those awful dresses at some point.
There are also no longer fast and set rules on how many
bridesmaids you must have. The size of your wedding often relates to how many attendants,
and these days the choice is entirely up to you. Tradition has gone out the window, a
pleasing thought for many future brides. You can even have more than one maid of honor if
you wish. The rules you must play by are your own rules.
The same new rules apply to your flower girl[s] and ring
bearer[s] choose more than one, have only one, have one of each. The best age range for
this very important little peoples job is between 5 and 7. Younger children have a
harder time staying focused. Now if you dont mind if they mess up a little
bit, then by all means you can choose a younger child. After all they can be a great
source of amusement! Older children will also be thrilled to be chosen to man the
guestbook or help guests. It makes them feel extra special.
The more bridesmaids you have the more coordination and
communication your going to have to take care of. Remember youll have plenty of
issues to deal with from dresses, to nails, to hair, to jewelry. So dont choose more
bridesmaids than you think you can handle. This is supose to be a happy time for you and
stress doesnt make a person happy.
Forget the old theory that if you dont include
everyone thats close to you, there will be hard feelings. Most women have outgrown
this childish thought pattern, and recognize that the modern bride has tough choices to
make to stay within budget and fulfill her special day. Sometimes a future bride just has
too many close friends to have them all in the wedding party. Relax! Invite them to the
wedding, and if you want ask them to do special favors such as perhaps your nails or your
hair, depending on their own unique talents.
The maid of honor has a role to play besides in the
wedding party. She needs to be the brides right arm and help with any wedding tasks she
can. She can help select the wedding gown, get the invitations in order, arrange a wedding
shower, help with choosing a reception location, help decorate, or even help prepare the
food. The duties that can be assigned to your made of honor are endless, just be sure not
to overwhelm her with too many requests. Your maid of honor is like the brides personal
first aid kit. Ready to fix anything thats broken.
Bridesmaids also play an important role by planning the
bridal shower, preparing munchies, cake, or sandwiches for the shower. They are also there
to support and help the bride whenever they can.
For the modern bride these are happy times, choices are
endless, you can make your fashion statement and let your bridesmaids make theirs.
No more having to follow traditions unless you want to. Planning the perfect wedding has
never been easier!
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